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they are temporary and if both the parties end up tearing things,
the marriage would end up in a divorce.
Masroor asked me what she should do. I told her that she
should act according to his moods. If he is in a bad mood, she
should instead talk to the Lord within him, and when his mood
changes, the n she can talk to him directly. If he were to say
something hurtful to her, she should remain silent. She should see
him as innocent. He acts according to the forces of his past karmas;
in reality he is not the doer. Love is tolerance and adjustments.
Love should be true. Feeble love will last only a short while. I told
her that under no circumstances should she retaliate. Instead she
should just remember ‘Dada’ and pray to Him for strength.
Masroor accepted everything. I told her that she should
deal with her mother-in-law in the same way. I explained to her
what strength of character is: Whenever her husband yelled at
her, if she remained silent and calmly observed what was
happening, her character would strengthen and it would have an
impact on her husband. He would be impressed at her ability to
remain calm and collected. He would lose the battle.
She followed my advice and acted on it. When one prepares
to win a battle, they lose their inner energies. I never prepare for
any battles. You might feel that in demonstrating your strength you
are winning, but in fact, you are really losing your inner energies
and strength of character. If you lose this, your husband will not
value you at all. She understood this well and promised that she
would never fight with him.
If someone is preparing to fight with you, and if you get
ready to retaliate, your strength of character will break. No matter
how much someone tries to provoke you into a fight, if you do not
respond to him, he will loose.