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Generation Gap
war! She had made preparations to tackle all disputes. She was
ready to fire before he could even begin. If he fired a torpedo, she
would fire back with an equally powerful weapon. I informed her
that she had begun a cold war, for which there would be no end.
Girls have a tendency to act this way. These poor boys are
naive, they do not plan for anything and consequently they lose
the battle.
I asked Masroor who had taught her all this and told her
that if she were to carry on in this way, her husband was bound to
divorce her within the first six months and whether that was what
she wanted. I told her that her approach was very wrong. She
protested that if she did not act this way, he would become her
oppressor. I reassured her and told her that she should listen to
my advice if she wanted a happy marriage. I told her all the women
who had prepared to fight back with their husbands had failed
miserably. I explained to her that she should go without anticipating
any antagonism from him and not make any preparations for
conflicts. If she went on fighting with her husband day in and day
out, would he not think about other women? She would only win
him over with love.
Questioner : Love?
Dadashri : Yes, love. There is an element of love even in
attachment. I told her that she did not hate him and it was not a
war between India and Pakistan. Everyone in a marriage seems
to be at war. This brings misery into their lives.
I explained to her that in order to win her husband over, if
he created any conflicts, she should try to resolve them. She should
remain calm and not lose her temper. Even if he tried to create
differences between the two of them, she should act as though
they both were one. All these relationships are relative relationships;