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his own experience. Later his son sees his girlfriend with another
boy at the movies and he immediately realizes that his father was
right all along. (P.457)
Questioner : What is the difference between attachment
(moha) and love (prem)?
Dadashri : Have you seen moths hovering around an open
flame and eventually destroy themselves in it? They destroy their
own lives. That is called moha (infatuation). Love however, is
everlasting. Nevertheless there is still some attachment in it. But
the marriage which lasts, is more than just attachment or infatuation.
(P.458)
For example, in a relationship where there is infatuation, if
one of the partners develops a hideous boil on the face, the other
partner would find it repulsive to look at him or her and the
infatuation would diminish. With love, even if one partner develops
innumerable boils on his or her body, it would not affect the other
at all. Find yourself such a love or do not get married at all.
Otherwise you will have to deal with the consequences of infatuation
and attachment.
If your spouse sulks, you will come to despise his looks. If
he says something pleasant to you, you will like him, but when he
says something bitter and spiteful, you begin to dislike him. (P.459)
Questioner : How can I stop dating?
Dadashri : You should stop it. Decide to do this right now.
It is your duty to stop doing something wrong as soon as you
realize it. You must stop dating because from our Gnan you now
know that you will create causes for future suffering.
If you are pure you will find a spouse who is pure. That is
vyavasthit, and it is precise.
(P.459)