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Generation Gap
Questioner : I do not discriminate between colors. If she
is a good person, what difference does it make whether she is an
American or an Indian?
Dadashri : No. Do not even think about getting involved
with an American girl. You have seen the relationship between
your father and mother. Do they ever have disputes?
Questioner : Yes, they have disputes.
Dadashri : But when that happens, does your mother ever
walk out on your father?
Questioner : No, she does not.
Dadashri : On the other hand a non-Indian wife will put all
the blame on you, threaten you and leave you. An Indian wife will
always stay with you, through thick and thin. I am trying to make
you understand by warning you about the consequences. Do not
get involved with a non-Indian girl or else you will regret it.
If you have an Indian wife, no matter how much you fight
with one another, things will always go back to the way they were.
Questioner : Yes that is right.
Dadashri : So therefore, decide that you will only marry
an Indian girl. Then it does not matter whether she is a Brahmin, a
Jain or a Vaishnav.
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Questioner : What are the benefits of marrying within one’s
own caste?
Dadashri : If you marry someone of your own caste, you
will have similar traits and a mutual understanding. There are some
inherent idiosyncrasies in each caste. These differences may be
small, but they will also be the cause of minor frictions between