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that they should get married, so that it will help reduce the number
of unmarried girls and I also tell them that I do not have any
problems with those who marry. This path of liberation is open
and available for married people also; there are no restrictions
here that exclude married people.
But these young adults have discovered for themselves that
there are lots of problems in a marriage. They tell me that they
have seen how happy their own parents are and that they do not
want that kind of happiness.
(P.451)
Do not pressure your son into marriage or else he will blame
you for ruining his life. The truth of the matter is that the son will
not know how to get along with his wife, so he will end up blaming
you.
(P.453)
If you have a girl in mind for your son, tell him that you
approve of her and that if he also approves her, you can pursue
the matter further. If he does not like the girl, then you should just
drop the matter. You must first get his consent; otherwise he will
keep blaming you.
(P.453)
Questioner : Is it a sin to marry a person you are in love
with?
Dadashri : No. A temporary love marriage is considered
a sin. Such a marriage would only last for one or two years. A
life-long love marriage however, is acceptable. If one wishes to
marry, he should only marry once. People should not have too
many relationships; such a situation would take them to hell.(P.455)
A father questions the integrity of his son’s relationship with
his girlfriend. But when the son becomes very defensive and abusive
towards him, the father recognizes that the son is not ready to
accept his advice and that it would be better to let him learn from