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anything in this life, nobody can. Even the Lord himself cannot change anything for Himself! You made the bhaav to marry in your past life, so marriage is inevitable for you in this life. Whatever plan you made in your past life, is what will come into effect in this life.( P. 449)
Just as people cannot live without defecating, they cannot live without getting married. If mentally you are a bachelor there is no problem, but if your mind is filled with marriage, you cannot avoid marriage. People cannot live in solitude. They need others around them. Who can exist in solitude? Only the Gnani Purush can exist in solitude, because he is absolutely independent. He has no need for any kind of support.
Human beings cannot survive without human warmth and security. If we tell someone to sleep alone in a very large and expensive bungalow, would he like it? Man needs human warmth and security, which is why he gets married. It is not wrong to get married. It is the law of nature.
Just be spontaneous and natural about marriage. Keep in your mind that you want to get married to someone from a good family, and when the circumstances arrive, you should get married. But what is the point of becoming anxious and restless before the time is right? Do you want to run around unnecessarily before your time is right?
Questioner: No, only when the time is right.
Dadashri: Yes. You are in need of a wife and the wife is in need of you.( P. 450)
Questioner: If some of your young followers say they do not wish to get married, what advice do you give to them in private?
Dadashri: In private, I tell them to get married. I tell them