36 Generation Gap
Questioner: I don’ t understand what you mean by selfishness. Whose selfishness?
Dadashri: A person who is sulking does so because he knows that you want something from him.
Questioner: Should we keep our selfish expectations hidden?
Dadashri: There should not be any such motives. Why should you have any expectations? You will get whatever your karma has in store for you. If you harbor any expectations from him, he will become even more obstinate and difficult. He will continue sulking.( P. 179)
Questioner: How can we pacify a youngster who throws temper tantrums?
Dadashri: How will it help the situation by getting rid of his temper?
Questioner: He will not fight with us.
Dadashri: As a parent, you should conduct yourself in such a way that he does not detect anger in you. When he sees you get angry, he will decide that he can be angrier than his father. If you stop getting angry, he will too. Look at me. Since I have conquered my anger, no one fights with me. Even when I tell them to get angry with me, they shrug their shoulders.( P. 181)
Questioner: We have to get angry with our children so that they do the right thing. Don’ t we have to fulfill this duty as parents?
Dadashri: Why must you become angry? What is wrong with simply explaining things to them? You are not creating anger.