Generation Gap
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Anger just happens. The anger that you display is not considered
anger. It is not considered anger to scold your child. So show
anger. It is acceptable to demonstrate anger, but instead you
become angry from within. It is one thing to display anger and
another to become angry.
(P.181)
Questioner : What is the reason behind anger?
Dadashri : Weakness. Anger is a weakness. It is this
weakness that makes a person angry. He himself does not get
angry. After he gets angry, he realizes that it was wrong. He is
remorseful, which goes to show that it is not in his control. This
machine, this body and its contents, gets overheated, so you should
wait for it to cool down and then you can pursue the matter.
(P.182)
When you become irritated with your children, you are
binding new karma for your next life. There is nothing wrong in
displaying irritation towards them as long as you do not feel and
suffer the irritation. It should be dramatic.
Questioner : They do not become quiet unless we scold
them.
Dadashri : There is nothing wrong in scolding them. But
when you become involved in the scolding your facial expression
changes to one of disgust. In doing so, you will bind negative
karma. Go ahead and scold them, but keep your facial expression
pleasant. It is because your ego arises that your facial expression
becomes ugly.
Questioner : Then children will think that we are not serious
when we scold them.
Dadashri : It is enough even if they think that. Only then
will it have an impact, otherwise it will not affect them at all. If you