Generation Gap
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There are four children in a family. The father keeps getting
annoyed with the two that do nothing wrong and never says
anything to the two that keep making mistakes. All this stems
from the root cause of their past lives. All children should be treated
equally. If you favor one over the others, everything will be ruined.
Are you still partial towards one?
(P.179)
Questioner : My son frequently gets upset very easily and
sulks.
Dadashri : It is because people give too much importance
to the boys and not enough to the girls. The girls are less likely to
sulk. (In India, the male child receives more importance.)
Questioner : Why do they sulk, Dada?
Dadashri : It is because you constantly give in to them.
Just let them come to me and sulk! They do not sulk with me
because I never give in to them. Even when they refuse to eat, I
would not bother with them, whereas you make a big fuss and
insist that they eat. I do not coddle them to eat. In doing so you
are reinforcing bad habits. I know what bad habits it creates.
When he gets hungry, he will eat, you will not have to pamper
him. I know of other tactics. And sometimes if he is being very
obstinate, he may not eat anything even if he is hungry. So then I
would communicate directly with his Soul. You should not do
this; you should just continue to do whatever you normally do.
Children do not sulk with me. What good does sulking do?
Questioner : Dada, show us your tactics, because the
sulking and pampering goes on day in day out. So if you give us
your key, it will help us all.
Dadashri : They sulk because of your own selfish interest
and expectations. Why should you have so many selfish motives?