22 Generation Gap
Questioner : Is it demerit karma ( paap ) when we use harsh language at times while performing our duties ?
Dadashri : What is the expression on your face when you use such language ? Know that you have committed demerit karma when there is disgust in your expression and your face appears ugly . Always speak calmly and use gentle words . Never use bitter and ugly speech . Use your words sparingly and speak with love and affection so that one day you will win him over . Otherwise you will not succeed . Bitterness on your part will only serve to make him vindictive and harbor hatred towards you . He is helpless at the present time , but from within he is binding negative karmas to get even with you when he grows up . Love will work wonders for you although you may not see the results immediately . Just keep showering him with love and affection and later you will be rewarded with the fruits of this love .
Questioner : What should we do when despite trying to explain things to them , they still do not understand ?
Dadashri : There is no need to make them understand at all . Just love them and make them understand gently . Do you ever speak harshly with your neighbors ? ( P . 112 )
How do we handle burning coals ? Do we not use a pair of tongs ? What would happen if we tried to hold the coals with our bare hands ?
Questioner : We would get burned . Dadashri : So a ' tong ' is necessary . Questioner : What kind of ' tong ' should we use here ?
Dadashri : There are people in your family that are like these tongs . They themselves do not feel hurt and they are also