22 Generation Gap
Questioner: Is it demerit karma( paap) when we use harsh language at times while performing our duties?
Dadashri: What is the expression on your face when you use such language? Know that you have committed demerit karma when there is disgust in your expression and your face appears ugly. Always speak calmly and use gentle words. Never use bitter and ugly speech. Use your words sparingly and speak with love and affection so that one day you will win him over. Otherwise you will not succeed. Bitterness on your part will only serve to make him vindictive and harbor hatred towards you. He is helpless at the present time, but from within he is binding negative karmas to get even with you when he grows up. Love will work wonders for you although you may not see the results immediately. Just keep showering him with love and affection and later you will be rewarded with the fruits of this love.
Questioner: What should we do when despite trying to explain things to them, they still do not understand?
Dadashri: There is no need to make them understand at all. Just love them and make them understand gently. Do you ever speak harshly with your neighbors?( P. 112)
How do we handle burning coals? Do we not use a pair of tongs? What would happen if we tried to hold the coals with our bare hands?
Questioner: We would get burned. Dadashri: So a ' tong ' is necessary. Questioner: What kind of ' tong ' should we use here?
Dadashri: There are people in your family that are like these tongs. They themselves do not feel hurt and they are also