Generation Gap
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capable of handling someone who is hurting himself. When you
talk to your child, you should have such a person present with
you, who can reinforce whatever you say and help you deal with
the matter. You will have to find a way to deal with the problem
otherwise everyone will get hurt.
(P.114)
If what you say does not make a difference, you should let
it go. You are foolish to continue when you do not know how to
explain things. Not only will it be in vain but you will also ruin your
peace of mind and your spiritual progress as well. (P.116)
Questioner : Sometimes parents go overboard with their
display of affection towards their children.
Dadashri : All that is being emotional. Even people who
do not display their affection can be called emotional. Everything
needs to be normal. By that I mean it should be dramatic. You
have to play your part convincingly, just as you would in a play.
Actors act out their roles so convincingly that even the audience
believe it to be real. But when actors go off stage, they know that
it was only a play and that it was not real.
(P.118)
There is only one way to make this world better and
that is through love. But what the world regards as love is
merely attachment. All attachment by its very nature is
associated with expectations. Besides, where is that love when
your child breaks your expensive china? Instead you become
irritated and angry; that is not true love. Children are looking
for true love, but they do not find it. Only they understand
their predicament. Not only can they not bear their plight, but
they cannot express it either.
I have a way out for the young people of today. I know
how to guide them. My love for them remains constant. My love
does not increase or decrease. Love that fluctuates is not true