I work with many single individuals who desire love in their lives and want a companion but have not learned how to love themselves without judgment, have not healed from past relationships, and who don’t believe they deserve to be loved. I often remind them that the most important person in your life is you. What you believe, think, and feel about yourself will make the difference and be the point from where you attract others into your life. So loving, accepting, forgiving, and empowering yourself are essential keys to attracting the love that you desire. The person in the mirror is the first step in attracting the love you want. Self-love is not selfish, it’s knowing that you are worthy and deserve the love you give to yourself and others.
Here are three ways to improve your relationship with yourself. Remember what you attract reflects how you feel about yourself.
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Stop being so judgmental of yourself. Accept that you are a work in progress and are expected to make mistakes. This human experience is trial and error, learning and growing. Being human means being imperfect. You did not choose this human experience for perfection, you chose it for evolution. So think of each experience as a learning lesson; accepting all aspects of yourself - good, bad, right, wrong, pretty and ugly.
We typically judge ourselves after the fact, after you experience the consequences of your actions. This hindsight comes from an “after the fact” lens; looking back with the thought of should of, would of, could of but didn’t. Learning to accept yourself is to accept that you are always doing the best you can with what you know, have, and the space and situation you find yourself in. You are not intentionally trying to make a bad decision or cause yourself suffering. It’s only after the fact that we realize we didn’t make the best decision or the outcome was not as we had planned. The best we can do is feel it, accept it, learn from it, and let it go. Learning to accept our faults and imperfections and become better because of them is self-love.