temptation is never far away.
Rejection creates feelings of low self-worth as
a man wonders why his wife no longer wants to
have sex. He mentally deems her “frigid” without
perhaps trying to understand the reason behind
her hesitation. Temptation never begins in the
form of an affair, but can lead to one. Just as a
woman needs to talk to her mate to feel intimate, a
man needs sex to feel that connection to his wife.
Most feelings of rejection spiral into selfgratification and pornography, which are serious
addictions unto themselves. Men get to a point
where it physically hurts not to get a release and
end up gratifying themselves. However, men
are visual creatures, so they need some type of
stimulation to get them aroused. That is where
the sin and deception come in. Masturbation is
self-indulgence.
Men, when they self gratify, are taking something
that was meant for their wives and satisfying
themselves. The Bible never directly speaks
against self-gratification, but it does cover sexual
sin. The sin isn’t in the release, but the images
that lead up to the release.
“Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled:
but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Hebrews 13:4
How do you get to be an adulterer? Look no further
than Matthew and Job:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit
adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at
a woman lustfully has already committed adultery
with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28
The sin begins long before self-gratification. It
is in the lustful images and desires they create
towards someone that isn’t your spouse. Most
men wouldn’t dream of telling their wives that they
fantasize about someone else while having sex
with them. Yet this is what pornography leads to.
While most men will stop at pornography, some will
go on to have affairs. The seed has already been
sown and often bitterness begins to take root. It can
begin with that flirtatious girl in the office with the
slightly revealing clothing, sexual innuendos gone
too far, or even cyber sex. Affairs are more due to
unmet needs than just sex, although sometimes it
stems from the pain of rejection over sex.
I don’t think that there is any woman out there th