Faith Filled Family 2015 Issue 2 | Page 22

skills wisely between your job, family/parents, childern (if there’s any), church attendance, community activities and other obligations. You must learn to balance your daily schedule. and gave Himself for her. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. (Eph. 5:25; 28). He is to love her no matter what. He is willing to provide, protect, serve her and if necessary, risk his life to save her. Likewise, the wife is to respect him and esteem him wholeheartedly. Nevertheless, let each of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Eph. 4:33). This is the means through which she gives honor to him. In today’s society marriage has undergone a major reconstruction which excludes the principles of God. Within far too many marriages, Love, honor and obey has been replaced with I~ Me ~ My syndrome. With such an attitude, this shift in marriage has left far too many couples distant, selfish, unthankful and thoughtless. But there is hope! Marriage is not about a man controlling his wife nor, a woman reconstructing her husband. Men and women are different physical, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. You think differently. Each of you have your own unique fuction. You have to learn how to live together harmoniously and build a godly marriage that’s built on a foundation based upon love, trust, mutual respect, living peacefully and most importantly the principles of marriage written in the infallible word of God. To succeed at this, it is the responsibility of both husband and wife to spend quality time together. You must apply time management Financial security and participating in community activities are good for a marriage. However; when your job or other obligations become more important than spending vaulable time with your spouse, it’s time for an adjustment. You must never prefer anything or anyone over being with your husband or wife. Such shelfish actions will create feeling of loneliness, rejection, emptiness and neglect and may aide in your mate finding other means of fulfillment; such as infidelity. As it pertains to your job, it’s of urgency that you and your spouse discuss your work hours including overtime, income and expenses and design a mutually agreed upon schedule that allows you to have more alone time. If need be, you can speak to a wise Christian Leader, such as your Pastor (s) to help resolve this problem. This requires the ability to communicate