D I V O R C E
3. “He/she won’t be there for
me when I need him/her.”
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• You don’t open up to others in
anticipation of being disappointed by
their response (e.g., lack of validation or
interest).
When you lack emotional support,
attention, affection, guidance or
• You resent others automatically
understanding as you’re growing up,
because you aren’t getting the love and
you probably also anticipate emotional
understanding that you need.
deprivation in your adult life. With this fear
come such thoughts as: I don’t get the love 4. “I’m not good enough.
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that I need. I don’t have anyone in my life
If you feel that you are bad, unworthy,
who really cares about me or meets my
defective or unlovable, your thoughts may
emotional needs. I don’t feel emotionally
include: If people really knew me they
connected to anyone.
would reject me. I am unworthy of love.
As a result of feeling like you’re always
I feel shame about my faults. I present a
going to be lonely:
false self because if people saw the real me
they woul