DIVORCE 411 APRIL 2015 | Page 12

D I V O R C E 4 1 1 5 Major Fears That Kill Relationships By Michelle Skeen A re you a perfectionist? Are you clingy when you feel someone pulling away? Do you assume the worse when a text, email, or voice mail goes unanswered? Do you try to avoid some of these fears with food or just a few cocktails? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you are likely in the grip of one of five major relationship fears. These fears can undermine your desire to create healthy new connections. Our minds are powerful. Clinging to destructive thoughts and fears can often lead us into vicious cycles of self-doubt, so it’s up to us to interrupt these cycles when we notice they are happening. That way, we prevent our fears from dictating our behaviors, and leading to further insecurity. The first step toward change is understanding these fears. Here’s an explanation of five major fears that destroy relationships. Get to know them, because knowledge is power, and it’s the most essential ingredient for personal growth, both in and out of relationships. 12 | Divorce 411 April 2015