BEFORE YOU SAY, "I DO!"
what their expectations were before getting married.
They were both so love-struck, that neither one thought it necessary to talk about the extreme personality differences and lifestyles they each had become accustomed to. They both probably thought that the marriage vows would be enough to change each other and to become what the other wanted. Not so at all.
Before you say, “I DO” make sure you both truly talk about everything possible, and maybe even going through counseling which would not be a bad idea. A counselor would be more objective and forthright. Counselors will encourage you to look at what makes you both compatible and incompatible. Oftentimes bringing in a third party (counselor, minister, or life couch) will give you a whole new perspective. Don’t lose face if you decide to call it off; you would have saved yourselves the agony of going through a divorce, depression, and possibly financial ruin. I advise anyone who is considering getting married or hope to meet someone to
marry, to seriously take into consideration who you really are in personality and character. If you are not willing to change in some areas or compromise — DO NOT GET MARRIED! Marriage is full of compromises.
Marriage is for two whole, unique individuals who are unselfish, respectful and loving. You become a team, and both share the concept that pleasing the other is the infinite goal. If you are not willing to unconditionally give love to your spouse and make adjustments that will bring harmony, peace and satisfaction, you may not be ready for marriage or you are with the wrong person. Take your time and wait on God’s best. Everyone you like and fall in love with may not be the best prospect for you. Love alone does not keep the marriage together, a commitment to love and being faithful is what glues and even cements the union. Believe and trust God to bring into your life that one that is just right for you. He wants to be a part of your plan and you will not go wrong if you let Him (Proverb 3:5-6). Before you say, “I Do”, consider the cost and then allow God the opportunity to give you the qualities it takes to fulfill the commitment of marriage.
"They both probably thought that the marriage vows would be enough to change each other and to become what the
other wanted."