BEFORE YOU SAY, "I DO!"
“But That One Thing!”
Article by Dr. Tunishai Ford
When you meet that special person, you desire to spend every waking moment with them, and it is an exciting time in your life. Everything appears to be perfect; you have never been happier. You both agree that you cannot live without each other and decide to get married. You start making wedding plans. Filling out the registry list, making the list for guests and of course picking out the perfect dress and tuxedo is first on the agenda. You believe you have covered everything from the perfect venue to picking out the most beautiful flowers for the occasion. You are all set, right?
One of the most important components to planning the perfect wedding day is planning the perfect lifetime commitment to each other. Yes, I know what you are thinking right now—there is no perfect marriage. You are absolutely right, but you can come very close to it; I believe that with all of my heart. You see while you are dating and getting to know each other, you should really get to know everything you can about your potential spouse, and that includes your interest, values, love making practices, and serious pet peeves.
It is quite evident that many couples do not talk because of the reasons they use to justify getting divorced. If they had taken the time to talk about the in-depth things that can keep a marriage together or break a marriage apart, maybe they would have realized whether or not they were best suited for each other and avoided a lot of unnecessary heartache, especially before making costly financial commitments and having children.
I heard the saddest story about a marriage that was broken because one liked to travel, and the other was a home body who did travel with their spouse from time to time. The wife decided that she no longer wanted to be married because her spouse desired to spend time enjoying their new home they built. She on the other hand liked to go, go, go. They were both Christians, mature adults (in their sixties) and truly loved each other. They had everything in common, but that one thing. But it was that one thing that placed a wedge between them and destroyed their marriage.
Although they were attracted to each other, they should have thoroughly discussed the matter and made it clear