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*INSERT SIDE EYE HERE* Lemme just start by sayin' I don't trust that kneegrow as far as I can fling him! As a mother, you have every right to be concerned!!! First off, what grown man with good intentions is gonna reach out to a BABY ('cus 9 years old ain't nothin' but a baby) on social media Darth Vader Style, "Luke...I AM YOUR FATHER"? Ever heard of CHAIN OF COMMAND? Second why is this man's wife ('cus that part threw me for a LOOP gyal) reaching out to you? He all of a sudden forgot how to use the computer or phone or lost his ability to speak for himself aye? Chile Boo!
I understand that you want your daughter to have a relationship with her biological father but his timing is far too questionable. If he was really interested in building a relationship with her he would have come through you. Now that I've gotten past my initial mama bear response, I will say this: you are going to have to talk to your kid! She needs to understand some things. DO NOT LIE TO HER AND DON'T SUGARCOAT IT! Children are more resilient than we give them credit for. Tell her why you're concerned, get her feedback and if she still wants to know him then set some ground rules and make sure she is protected at all costs. Give her that opportunity, BUT GIIIIRL WATCH HIM (and that wife) like a hawk!
- Rab
My daughter's father was deported when she was a year old. Since, he didn't try to keep in contact, send money, see how his child was, or nothing. My daughter is 9 now and he has been reaching out to her on Facebook saying he is her father and telling her how he misses her. I don't want my daughter to get hurt, but I don't want to lie to her either. His wife (yes, his wife) reached out to me asking me to help get him straight to see his daughter. Honestly, I don't trust him and I think he's trying to use my daughter, but at the same time I don't want her to not know her biological father even though my boyfriend is the only daddy she knows.
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