3 . Connection is better than perfection . Sometimes life throws us curveballs . Maybe this is the first Christmas since your divorce , or maybe you just cannot afford to get your kid that new gaming system he ’ s asking for . These types of situations can make us feel so guilty for not being able to give our kids the perfect holiday , but perfection isn ’ t as important as your relationship and the heart to heart connection your child feels with you . Feeling cared for , adored , and delighted in will do more in the long run for your child than a PS5 . Children are resilient , and it is not a failure to be less than perfect - it ’ s human .