Connections Quarterly Summer 2020 - Dialogues Across Difference | Page 30

D I ALOG UE: A PLAN FO R THE 2 0 2 0 EL EC T I O N Continued from page 5 1. Critical Thinking: Approach a dia- logue with an open-mind; seek to understand different perspectives; analyze and evaluate what you’ve learned; refrain from immediate judgement. 2. Listening: Practice active listening; be mindful of body language; listen to understand rather than listening only to make your counterpoint. 3. Speaking: Share your own experi- ence and perspective with clarity; take time in advance to reflect on the experiences and influences that have shaped your opinion; be mind- ful of your tone of voice. 4. Responding: Ask questions that are open-ended; seek clarification; ask questions that take the dialogue to a deeper level where meaning and sig- nificance can be explored; challenge perspectives within a context of re- spect; show empathy for people’s experiences. 5. Reflecting: Reflect on what you have learned from the other person’s perspectives/experiences; identify important differences and potential areas of common ground; determine whether the dialogue shifted your perspective—why or why not? Rec- ognize the holes in your own knowl- edge and experience—what do I need to learn more about? Reflect on the dialogue skills you used and Page 28 Summer 2020 the skills that you feel you need to continue to practice. Two Kinds of Dialogue Dialogue can take place in informal or formal settings. The theory and skills are the same. As dialogue practitioners there are endless opportunities to practice these skills. The more you practice in ev- eryday situations, the better prepared you will be to navigate a controversial issue. • Informal Dialogue: You can engage in dialogue every time you have a conversation with a friend, family member, neighbor, or colleague. You can practice your dialogue skills and be clear that in your conversation, you are interested in learning more about their perspectives—you aren’t interested in debating or trying to solve the problem. • Formal Dialogue: Formal dialogue can happen in classrooms, faculty meetings, board rooms, community centers, and places of worship—any place that people from different per- spectives want to create an inten- tional space to learn about different perspectives of an issue. There is usually a facilitator whose role is to create group norms for the dialogue, walk the group through an approved agenda or list of issues, and keep the space where dialogue can thrive. CSEE Connections