Stiletto Moms
Amber Bryant I was raised in the inner city of Atlanta , Ga by a single mother who was well educated and a leader in her field . I was taught to ask questions and find creative ways to go after and achieve all of my goals . “ No ” was pretty much unacceptable in my book , but with an involved mother I learned to negotiate very well to get things done my way . With all of my skills you would think I would have become a lawyer !
As I became an adult , the same principles rang true . “ No ” was never an option . I began to call and really think of myself as superwoman . The wife , mom , daughter , sister , best friend , teacher , entrepreneur doing it all ... And I thought I was doing it fabulously . Then I had a come to Jesus moment . I was exhausted and over hearing that I looked tired , and needed to rest . The reality was that I was just plain old sick and tired of feeling sick and tired . I was overwhelmed with this self-inflicted pressure I put on myself to be a , be everything , do everything woman . I immediately realized playing that role was going to send me to an early grave !! The pressure was sickening because when I missed something , didn ' t accomplish a goal or forgot to pick up the dry cleaning , I felt defeated and in some way like I had failed .
No one could possibly live up to the standards I had placed on my own life ! Not only was I half ass-ing on my mom and wife duties , but all of those dreams that lived deep inside were being buried and neglected more and more . I had to shift my mindset and realize that you can ' t do it alone . Every superhero had a sidekick ! So why wasn ' t I utilizing mine ( my hubby , my family , and my friends )? I was taking on every task myself , when I should have been asking for help or delegating .
Out of this mommy meltdown , Stiletto Mom was born . So what is Stiletto Mom you ask ? Stiletto Mom is a lifestyle , all about evoking a sense of strength , glamor , beauty , femininity — it ' s really just becoming your best self , finding your groove as a mom , spouse , friend , as well as the women you were made to be . Stiletto for me is a metaphor for life . The Stiletto is a power shoe for women . It makes you feel in charge , sexy and as if you could take over the world . When you slide into a pair , you often stand a little taller , walk a little differently and I just love the way you feel in them ! It ' s who every mother is . Yes , we lose ourselves in the day to day routine of work , kids , the hubby , cooking , cleaning ... The list goes on . But beneath it all we are powerful , strong , sexy , intelligent ... And quiet as its kept runnning the world !! At least our own little worlds . And most of us do it without breaking a sweat , it ' s just in our DNA .
You must start to think of yourself as the CEO of your life and run it as so . You will then find that you too are able to have it all and live your life out loud and on your own terms ! But to do so you ' ve got to be organized so you aren ' t overwhelmed and live by some of the main Stiletto Mom Rules :
Rule 1 : of being a Stiletto Mom is to let go of the Mom Guilt ! Once you learn to let go of that nasty ol ' guilt trip ( you ' re putting on yourself ), oh my ! What a burden is lifted .
Rule 2 : of being a Stiletto Mom is that you must be organized and plan ahead . Don ' t think that your lack of planning constitutes someone else emergency .
Rule 3 : of being a Stiletto Mom is to show appreciation . Once you ' ve delegated and asked for help , show a little gratitude to those who have put their life on hold for you !
Join me on this movement so we can see what happens when Stiletto Moms unite . I ' ll share my dreams , my fears , and accomplishments and hope to give inspiration and encouragement to those moms waiting to pull out her favorite pair of Pumps and take over Her World !
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