Stiletto Moms
Amber Bryant I was raised in the inner city of Atlanta, Ga by a single mother who was well educated and a leader in her field. I was taught to ask questions and find creative ways to go after and achieve all of my goals.“ No” was pretty much unacceptable in my book, but with an involved mother I learned to negotiate very well to get things done my way. With all of my skills you would think I would have become a lawyer!
As I became an adult, the same principles rang true.“ No” was never an option. I began to call and really think of myself as superwoman. The wife, mom, daughter, sister, best friend, teacher, entrepreneur doing it all... And I thought I was doing it fabulously. Then I had a come to Jesus moment. I was exhausted and over hearing that I looked tired, and needed to rest. The reality was that I was just plain old sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I was overwhelmed with this self-inflicted pressure I put on myself to be a, be everything, do everything woman. I immediately realized playing that role was going to send me to an early grave!! The pressure was sickening because when I missed something, didn ' t accomplish a goal or forgot to pick up the dry cleaning, I felt defeated and in some way like I had failed.
No one could possibly live up to the standards I had placed on my own life! Not only was I half ass-ing on my mom and wife duties, but all of those dreams that lived deep inside were being buried and neglected more and more. I had to shift my mindset and realize that you can ' t do it alone. Every superhero had a sidekick! So why wasn ' t I utilizing mine( my hubby, my family, and my friends)? I was taking on every task myself, when I should have been asking for help or delegating.
Out of this mommy meltdown, Stiletto Mom was born. So what is Stiletto Mom you ask? Stiletto Mom is a lifestyle, all about evoking a sense of strength, glamor, beauty, femininity— it ' s really just becoming your best self, finding your groove as a mom, spouse, friend, as well as the women you were made to be. Stiletto for me is a metaphor for life. The Stiletto is a power shoe for women. It makes you feel in charge, sexy and as if you could take over the world. When you slide into a pair, you often stand a little taller, walk a little differently and I just love the way you feel in them! It ' s who every mother is. Yes, we lose ourselves in the day to day routine of work, kids, the hubby, cooking, cleaning... The list goes on. But beneath it all we are powerful, strong, sexy, intelligent... And quiet as its kept runnning the world!! At least our own little worlds. And most of us do it without breaking a sweat, it ' s just in our DNA.
You must start to think of yourself as the CEO of your life and run it as so. You will then find that you too are able to have it all and live your life out loud and on your own terms! But to do so you ' ve got to be organized so you aren ' t overwhelmed and live by some of the main Stiletto Mom Rules:
Rule 1: of being a Stiletto Mom is to let go of the Mom Guilt! Once you learn to let go of that nasty ol ' guilt trip( you ' re putting on yourself), oh my! What a burden is lifted.
Rule 2: of being a Stiletto Mom is that you must be organized and plan ahead. Don ' t think that your lack of planning constitutes someone else emergency.
Rule 3: of being a Stiletto Mom is to show appreciation. Once you ' ve delegated and asked for help, show a little gratitude to those who have put their life on hold for you!
Join me on this movement so we can see what happens when Stiletto Moms unite. I ' ll share my dreams, my fears, and accomplishments and hope to give inspiration and encouragement to those moms waiting to pull out her favorite pair of Pumps and take over Her World!
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