2. Throw out what’s not working- You wouldn’t keep that old vacuum that doesn’t work, would you? Take a look at what’s not working, and how you can change that behavior, action or feeling with something that works for you.
If nagging your partner to help with the laundry isn’t getting the response you want, try flipping the script by letting them know how grateful you would be if they could help you out, and then acknowledging them with thanks (and a kiss) when they do help.
Have you been trying to convince your partner to exercise and eat healthier, try a different tactic like offering to walk with them every night after dinner, finding a co-ed sports team to join or enrolling in healthy cooking classes together. Remember you catch more flies with honey.
3. Make room for new experiences- First if you don’t have a regular date night scheduled do it now. Write it on your calendar in INK. And while catching the blockbuster is always fun. Do something different every once in awhile. New experiences activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with dopamine or “feel good” hormones. These same brain circuits are the ones that “light up” in the early stages of romantic love. Novelty can definitely play a role in keeping the romantic spark alive.
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