BOOM Edition 3 Jun 2016 Issue | Page 38

PA R E N T I N G 9 Things Mom Shouldn’t Say in Front of The Kids G iving parents tips on how to raise kids is difficult to say the least. People say ‘Truth is born of arguments.’ – a slightly heavy and intellectual take on our subject – one that I don’t necessarily agree with. What we need to do here is just discuss some really down-to-earth and essential rules of talking to your kids. Children do not have any kind of manual in their young skulls full of mush about how to talk to their parents. Children live moment-to-moment and aren’t into intellectually analyzing what mom or dad is saying. That’s why each of your phrases can play a big role in their lives. It’s so easy for adults, to say something to telegraph a wrong message that we can’t even realize. Without a doubt it’s impossible to keep all situation totally under control. But the rule here is that we talk to our little ones with the best of intentions and in a positive tone or we begin to lose their trust. Parent throwing around negative phrases is one of the reasons kids develop negative behavior patterns. Read on and take note of the top phrases you should eliminate from your parenting vocabulary right now. 1. ‘Shut-Up ‘ Try: ‘It seems we both are too emotional right now. We need to keep calm and then to discuss it again. Let’s try to think and lay down everything we want to talk about in a more loyal way. We love each other and that’s the reason we need to be regardful.’ 2. ‘Leave Me Alone! ‘ I’m not sure you want your kid be distant from you. I’m pretty sure that every single time you say this, you can’t stand yourself 2 minutes later! Being a mom means keeping your emotions under control. The ‘Don’t bother me’ phrase is internalized into the message ‘There is no point to try talking to mommy. She always brushes me off. So why should I