Mom Where is my father? And
Why is he not living with us?
This is the toughest question for any single
mom.. from her child.
While growing up when a kid sees her/his
friends parents together in school PTI or in
playgrounds, this question arises in kid's mind.
It's very difficult for any single mom to make
her kid understand why she got separated from
her/his father and what went wrong between
them. She somehow will manage to make her
kid understand by demeaning her/his father.
But thats wrong !! Whatever happened
between husband and wife, that should not
affect child, especially when she/he is growing
up and starting to understand the reality.
But any smart mom will never demean her ex-
husband, not because of he left her but she
understands, he's the father of her child and
she would never want to have anything that
happened to her with her child, because
children minds are fragile, whatever memories
she/he would gain in her/his childhood will
impact her/him in later age.
That's the reason court allows father to meet
his child whenever feels like.
Life as a SINGLE MOM & a
society's perception
I can't even imagine how much a single mom
go through initially after divorce. Its the worst
phase of her life and a child too.
At first she has to handle herself from the
trauma of the failed marriage and secondly she
has to make sure that her chid should not be
impacted much.
All kinds emotional and financial struggle she
faces, and if her parental family is supportive
then its good but if not then its a nightmare.
Stability and the future of her child is on the stake.
She has to face all the bull shit questions from a
society especially relatives. Everybody will try to
assassinate her character, and if she is strong
enough to face them all then, those bastards will
try to manipulate her kid's psyche, instead of
supporting her and respecting her courage, they
try to break her soul by taunting and sarcasms. In
fact they manipulate her parents saying "get her
married again" But no body cares or asks her
feelings.
And if she doesn't have any good friends then she
brakes out and goes into depression.
In some cases woman is tortured so badly that she
commits suicide or attempt to suicide. I blame it
on entire hypocrite society for this kind of
incidents. Why can't people support single mom?
Its really sad that people can't see someone's
happiness, in fact they will be jealous if someone
is happy and will be happy if someone suffers.
We say we are living in a progressive society and
in a 21st century, but our minds are still living in a
17th century.
Nowadays human psyche is become so bad that
they see a SINGLE MOM AS A OPPORTUNITY, a
opportunity to fuck, they think she is now easily
available, some chuts will show sympathies first,
then will manipulate her and when they find her
comfortable, they will try to fuck her, and story
doesn't end here, whether she agrees or not, they
will still gonna bitch about her in their hypocrite
circles.
WHAT A SHAME? I petty on this kind of mindsets.
They should think that this could happen with
anyone, may be with them also but they won't
think this way.
I wanna quote here that "BEING A SINGLE MOM
REQUIRES COURAGE NOT SYMPATHY".
I say its her choice to marry again or not or
indulge in any relationships or not and but its not
for the society to decide.