Sometimes we revisit those places again
where we had spent good moments of our
lives and cry out saying "Why this happened
with me?" Then slowly slowly with day
passes we tend to find out some reasons to
console our mind, then we start thinking
about the worst memories of our marriage,
and then we blame it on destiny or to the
worst we blame it on each other.
The impact is irreversible on both sides.
Impact on both families & a
blame game
As I have mentioned, marriages are not just
about individuals but also families are
involved too. It is generally noticed that in
divorces, girl side family suffers the most,
boy side would easily say, there wasn't any
problem with my son, it's that girl who ruined
my son's life. Instead of sorting out, they
blame each others family.
The boy side family goes to that extent that
they blame it all on girl and keep fucking her
character in front of all relatives and friends.
But they fail to understand that clapping
doesn't happen with one hand. And the
people whom they are bitching about girl, are
only there for GOSSIPS and in a way they are
downgrading themselves only and giving
them a hot topics for months.
Where as in girl side also this happens but
not to the extent of boy side family.
Oh common, we are living in so called mature
era, why can't both families come together
and try to sort it out, and if they can't then at
least they should never assassinate any
individual's character.
Any mature family should say, we don't have
any problems with boy or girl, it's that they
didn't gel with each other and they are adults,
so it's their life their decision.
I can't say all the families are bitch biters,
there are some exceptions also.
I know a family who's son's marriage broke,
but they are still in touch with their ex-
daughter in law and they meet, talk on phone,
I mean they are friends. I think this is called
maturity.
We need to understand that, if marriages are
success then everything is cool but when it
fails suddenly your perception changes. A
good become bad, and bad becomes worst.
They never understand, whatever they say
and bitch about, it impacts they grand-child,
no matter whose custody she or he is in, if
there is any..
Impact of child psyche
This is the worst part of any divorces, a child can handle
itself if she or he is adult but the impact on their psyche is
almost irreversible if they are kid, especially if she or he is
under 7 years of age.
Husband or Wife, they are adult and they will find someway
to move on with their lives by blaming each other but what
about innocent child? Whom will she/he blame on? And the
worst journey begins when she/he start going schools.
Kids always talk about their parents when they are in
group, they take pride of their parents, especially father.
You know this famous statement "MY DADDY
STRONGEST" But a single parent kid, I would rather say a
single mom kid suffers a lot.
She/he was too small when her/his parents got separated,
that time she/he didn't realize the things were happening
around her/him. But while growing up.. she/he has lot of
questions to ask.