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ask what happened and if the owner tells him the dog ruined the
ghee, the guest will say ‘That’s too bad’. He may say this but
he speaks superficially. He has to say ‘That’s too bad’, because
if he said ‘That’s good’, he will be thrown out!
‘I Do Not Like Being Away From You’
Even at this age I tell Hiraba that I do not like going out
of town and being away from her. She may be thinking, ‘I like
it, why does he not like being away?’ If you say such things,
your worldly life will not worsen and slip. From now on why
don’t you do the same? Add some richness to your life otherwise
it will become bland. Pour some sweetness into it. She will ask
me, ‘You think of me too?’ I tell her, ‘Very much. If I think of
others why would I not think of you? And truly I do think about
her, it is not that I don’t.
Hiraba Does Vidhi At The Feet Of The Gnani Husband
I have not had any conflicts with the Hiraba in forty-five
years of marriage. If she speaks within the boundaries of our
role, then I too will speak keeping these norms in mind. And if
some day her words cross these boundaries, I would understand
that she has done so. I would tell her that she is right but I
would not let a conflict arise. She will never feel that I have hurt
her even for a minute, and neither do I feel that she has hurt me.
One day someone asked me, ‘What kind of a relation do
you have with your wife now after your enlightenment? Do you
still interact with her without calling her by her name?(this
generation in India is such that they never address each other
by their actual first names)’. I told him, ‘No. I call her Hiraba.
She is seventy-six and I am seventy-eight, do you think I would
still call her in that manner? I call her Hiraba’. He then asked
me if she revered me. I told him that when I go to Baroda, she
would first come and do the vidhi, by touching her forehead to