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give her five hundred and one rupees?’ ‘What?’ she responded.
‘You are naïve. You are too naive. How can you give so much
money?’ She responded. Did I not win? I proceeded, ‘Give her
five hundred one rupees in cash and give her something small
from the silver in our home’. She insisted that I was very naive
and that we could not give so much money. Did I not avert a
conflict? No matter what, I would not allow a conflict to take
place and on top of that she tells me that I am naive. Instead
of allowing thoughts such as ‘To my brother you give little’, to
enter her mind, she instead began to tell me, ‘We cannot give
so much money.’
Coin Without Value
Do not try to have your own way at home. The one who
tries to keep control will have to wander. I told Hiraba that I
am a coin without remunerative value. I cannot afford to wander.
What does the coin without any value do? It has to sit next to
God all the time. Usually such coins end up in the temple. If you
try to do things your way in the home, will it not result in
conflicts? Now, after Gnan, all you have to do is settle matters
with equanimity. At home you have to live with your wife as a
friend. You have to live as friends with each other. Here no one
takes notice of who is in control. Neither is it recorded anywhere
else in the municipal offices. God too does not keep any record
of it. What is important, control or living happily? So find out
where lies happiness. If they kept a record of who was in
control, at the municipal offices, then I would not adjust. But
here no one keeps records.
When I go home to Baroda, I live as Hiraba’s guest.
Hiraba would have a problem if a dog were to come into the
house, but not a guest. If a dog were to come inside the house
and do some damage, it would be a problem for the owner, but
not for the guest. The guest merely observes everything. He can