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away things without thinking to anyone who would come giving
me a sob story whether it was true or not. I would continue to
make such mistakes and this only served to encourage people.
This is what Hiraba experienced and so I gave her the keys.
This was before I acquired Gnan. After Gnan there has never
been any conflicts between us.
I Would Take Back And Turn My Words To Avoid
Conflicts
Whatever I tell you has been tried and tested on myself
first. Even before I attained Self-realization, I never had any
conflicts with Hiraba. To have conflicts is the same as banging
into a wall. People may not have such awareness but I would
realize that I had banged into a wall with open eyes, whenever
I got into a conflict.
Once I had a difference of opinion with Hiraba. I address
my wife as Hiraba. (‘Ba’ means mother). As a Gnani Purush,
I can refer to all women as ‘ba’ and all girls as daughters. This
is not a long story; I can tell you if you want to hear it.
I had a difference of opinion with her one day. I almost
became trapped that day. Hiraba announced one day that her
brother’s oldest daughter was getting married and she asked
me what wedding gift of silver should we give her. I told her to
give from whatever silver we had in the house. Do you know
what she said to me? Normally we never used words like
‘yours’ or ‘mine’, in our home. We always said ‘ours’. That
day she told me, ‘For your uncle’s son, you give big silver
dishes.’ That day the interaction turned to ‘mine and yours’
“Your uncle’s son”, she announced, it came down all the way
to this level. I was taken aback by my own misunderstanding
and so I immediately turned things around; there is no harm in
doing that. It is better to turn around than get into conflicts. I
said to her, ‘I don’t mean to say that. In addition why don’t you