August Magazine 2014 Becoming Psychic Magazine February 2014 | Page 46

Shamans Way

By Ora North

5 Shamanic Labors of Love
for the Modern Relationship
1. Clear your space
Whether we are aware of it or not, we are constantly releasing, absorbing
and transforming energy. When you laugh, you are filling the space
around you with joy. When you have an argument with your partner, the
energy of the argument can hang in the air long after the argument has
ended. Our space is an extension of our energy and our mindset. Regular
(if not daily) cleansing and smudging of your space is needed to keep
your mind and mood clear. Burning white sage or palo santo does a world
of wonders; it purifies the energy of the space it is used in. Not only is
this necessary for your own peace of mind, but you would be surprised how it can affect your romantic relationship. I can’t tell
you how many times my husband has come home from work, the long day heavy on his shoulders, and I find myself crabby and
snapping at him for no reason, even though I had been fine before he arrived home. When we are out in the world and at work,
there are sticky energies that cling to us. We end up bringing those energies home with us. In the times my husband has brought
home sticky energies from work, I begin to feel them on me, and a lot of petty arguments arise from such a feeling. Burning sage
prevents a lot of arguments this way. When I sage him as soon as he comes through the door, the sticky energies are purified and
there is no sudden irritation. Did you just have a little spat with your partner? Sage it. Did your mother-in-law just leave after
spending a week in your guest room? Sage it. Did you just finish a long Saturday morning of finance planning with your partner?
SAGE IT.

2. Cut the cords
When we make a connection with another human being, whether this connection is emotional or sexual, we establish a cord of energy that connects the two people. In a happy, healthy relationship, the cord is a bond of strength, giving and taking and supporting one another in the right amounts. In an unhealthy relationship, one or both people may be draining the others energy and feeding off of it, lessening the quality of life for each of them. What’s even scarier is that even when the relationship has ended, these
energy cords last for 7 years! Have you ever felt drained by an ex, even though you weren’t together? Are you unable to move on
from your previous relationship, as much as you’ve wanted to? Maybe it’s time to cut the cords. There are guided meditations that
can assist you in the cutting of your cords. There are also healing practitioners who specialize in cutting your unhealthy cords for
you. After an unhealthy or unnecessary cord has been cut, you may feel you have regained a freedom and an energy you have desperately needed. This can help you move on and make more room for the healthy, loving relationships you envision. It’s also important to make time to strengthen your bond with your partner. Carve out some time to talk, share, and make love with your partner to feed your cord with the infinity loop of masculine and feminine divinity.

3. Sing it out
Music is the language of love. Take 10 minutes every day to sing or chant. Sing in the shower, sing in your car,
sing and dance around your living room when no one else is home. It doesn’t matter what kind of singer you
are. The simple act of singing is transformative for both your Throat Chakra (allowing you to express your
truth) and your Heart Chakra (opening your heart to give and receive love). Singing gives power to your
voice. The more empowerment you give your voice, the better your current and future relationships can be. A
relationship that can authentically feel with the heart and communicate with the empowered voice is a relationship with lasting power.