Relationship 101
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Relationships Today and Dating
If you have gotton into a relationship within the last few years you know how dating is very different now. There seems to be a great deal of communiction trouble, trust issues, lack of understanding and constant changes. Being in a relationship is supposed to just be letting someone into your life to enjoy life with you. The idea that you are sharing a life with someone is what should make life twice as fun. Being in a relationship with someone does not mean you own them, it means you have chosen to share something between the two of you that you are not sharing with others and that is why it is special.
If you are thinking that a realtionship means "Forever" think again because realistically forever never comes. There is really only today, tomorrow and whatever days there are to follow. Which is why thinking of being together one day at a time should be your main goal.
Dating should be fun, sometimes boring, sometimes serious but should never be a must. It should be a choice and made by both people that decide to enter the realationship.
There are rules to dating that make it a nice experience.
The Rules To Dating Are:
1. Know what you would like before you start dating. Being clear as to what you want in a partner.
2. Being honest with your potential date.
Letting each person know where you are coming from, what you expect and what you can compromise on.
3. Never make being together all about you. Caring about the other person and handling the relationship 50/50 works out better for the both people.
4. Explore new things: Don't go to old places that you are use to being at with your ex's if you have any. Try new places, see new things and make new memories.
5. Dragging the baggage! Whatever you have gone through leave it behind. Don't sit and talk about old relationships, what did and didn't happen. People do this and all you get out of it is one or the other comparing themselves to the ex you had. When you have a arguement this could turn it into a fight of terrible words or more.
6. Remember people saying "Put yourself in the right place at the right time" is not true! You being wherever you are, meeting the people that you meet and deciding to date one of them happens when it happens.
7. Plan your dates, know what your spending limits are, pay 50/50 (split the bill) unless your date would like to pay the full bill. Speak about it together first!
8. Don't make promises that you know you may not or cannot keep. Most people get upset if you have made a promise and you break it. You have to understand the human mind stays in conditioning stages or so it seems. We have been conditioned to believe that if a promise is made it is not to be broken.
9. If you get into a relationship and the person is a narrcisist "Get OUT of it!".