One must uphold the intention of‘ Let no living being be hurt through this ego’. Yet, if someone gets hurt one should do pratikraman for it and move on.
What is the difference between pride( maan) and selfrespect( swamaan)? Pride is ego with my-ness and self-respect is pride with a boundary, pride for which one is qualified. Selfrespect is engaged in protection of this pride. In the worldly life, self-respect is a virtue but the one who wants liberation will have to let go of this self-respect also. To set up protection against insult is self-respect.
An abhimaani person will exhibit all his possessions but the person with false pride with my-ness( mithyabhimaani) will boast‘ we have this and we have that’; when really he has nothing.
Insult is the‘ thermometer’, i. e. a gauge to measure pride. When insulted, if one gets affected, that verily shows the existence of pride.
A nirmaani person i. e. one who claims or holds the belief within of‘ I am without pride’ will have the ego of,‘ I am without pride.’ This ego is very subtle. Such ego too will have to go if he wants liberation.
The Gnani Purush is with and without inclination( spruha). He is completely disinclined towards the non-self of others( nispruha) and completely inclined( saspruha) towards the Souls of others.
There is no unmattata( reaction of swelling with pride) in the Gnani Purush. People swell with pride when they have money in their pockets and in the Gnani, there is no such reaction even when he is surrounded with luxury.
The Gnani Purush does not have any‘ I-ness’( potapanu). He is not the owner of the mind, speech or body at all.
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