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wife. They say, ‘I love you. I need you’ and then they fight.
Dadashri: That is aasakti. There is no telling where it is
and where it will end up. Oho ho! The great lovers! A man with
true love will not let go of her until she dies. There cannot be
deep mental notes (nondha) where there is love. It is not
possible to have both love and a ‘mental notebook’. When you
make a note of, ‘You did this…You did that’, there is no love
there any more.
‘We’ have so many mahatmas here but ‘we’ do not
make a note of anybody, even when they do distressful things.
There is neither an external note nor an internal one. If an inner
mental note (nondha) is made then, tension will arise even
when there is no cause for it. You will see ‘us’ tension free, no
matter when you see ‘us’, day or night. And that is why there
is no hassle anywhere. Even when ‘our’ health is not good
they all say, ‘Dada is smiling.’ There is a smile because there
is no tension! So do not get involved with anyone’s affairs.
Tension will arise even if you become concerned about your
physical health, ‘I have this problem and that problem’, will it
not?
Questioner: ‘Where there is love there is no nondha
(intense mental note),’ this is an important statement.
Dadashri: Yes, love that keeps mental notes is not love.
The love of this world is one which has mental notes. A
woman will make a note of, ‘He said this to me today.’ Now
how can you call that love? There is no need to make any
notes if it is love, otherwise it will become infatuation
(attraction-repulsion). Love that increases or decreases is not
love. The world will not refrain from making notes. They may
not tell you on your face but in their mind they will say, ‘he told
me off a few days ago.’ Would she not keep that on her mind?
Therefore, does she not keep a note? The one who does not
keep notes has real love. I do not have a notebook, how can