Aptavani-9
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understand that everyone is irritated, but what can he do? The
path that Dada has shown you is straight; it is ekavtari i.e. you
can achieve liberation within one more lifetime. So remain in
saiyam (without kashayas: anger-pride-deceit and greed) and
settle your files with equanimity. Whether she is your daughter,
your wife or anyone else, deal with her, with equanimity. No one
is anyone’s daughter or wife, in this world. Everything is
dependant upon the fruition of one’s own karma. However, we
cannot make this statement to those who do not have Gnan. If
you tell them this, they will fight with you.
Now when does your moksha become ruined? When you
become asaiyami (with kashayas: anger-pride-deceit-greed).
Our Gnan is not such that it will cause asaiyam. Gnan is
constant saiyam. Externally induced troubles (upadhi) arise the
moment suspicion arises.
Therefore, to have suspicion or to become laden with
suspicion (shankashil) is a grave liability. I have seen a father of
nine girls be free of suspicions, even in the worst of Kaliyug.
And all the girls got married. How long would he have lived, had
he lived in suspicion? So never become suspicious because you
will be the greatest loser.
Questioner: What kind of a loss does one incur with
suspicion? Please clarify this.
Dadashri: It is nothing but misery. Direct living misery!
Is that a minor loss? If one goes deeper and becomes even
more suspicious, it will cause him pain that is comparable to
death.
Questioner: It will hurt like being struck with a spear.
Dadashri: A spear is better. There is greater pain and
misery in suspicion. A spear just jabs but suspicion will kill a
person. Do not be suspicious otherwise it will lead to more
anguish and turmoil.