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anxious when she comes home late; it makes you so anxious that
you may get a heart attack. You have to reason with her one
way or another.’ He then realized the consequences of what
would happen to her if he were to kick her out. Other people
would take advantage of her and that would be the end. If you
throw her out at one o’clock in the morning, how helpless would
that poor girl become? Should you not think about what people
of this time cycle are like?
So do not be suspicious even if your daughter ever comes
home late. How much benefit is there in getting rid of your
suspicions? What is the point of worrying unnecessarily?
Nothing is going to change in one lifetime. Do not cause your
sons and daughters any unnecessary misery. You have to tell
them, ‘Daughter, you should not come late when you go out.
Our family is very honorable so it does not suit us. So do not
come home late.’ Talk to them and reason with them this way.
But you cannot afford to worry about who she may be going out
with and what she must be doing. And when she comes home
at midnight you still have to tell her, ‘Daughter, this should not
happen again.’ You do not know where she will go if you throw
her out. Do you understand that? Where is the gain in it if you
do? Is it not better to have the least amount of harm? That is
why I have told everyone to let their daughters come into the
house even if they come home late; do not throw them out.
Strong headed people will throw them out, will they not? How
strange is the current era! How anxiety filled this era is? This is
the Kaliyug, so sit down with them and explain things to them.
Free from kashayas on the path of moksha
So what ‘we’ tell you to do is settle your files with
equanimity. These are all files. They are not your daughter or
wife. These daughters and wives are all ‘files’. Settle matters
with all your files with equanimity. When you become paralyzed,
no one will stand by you. On the contrary, they will get irritated
if it goes on for long time. Even the person with paralysis will