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Questioner: No, then there is no point in having any
suspicion about her.
Dadashri: Yes, that is it. Whatever the reason, one
should not let suspicion arise. You should be vigilant and aware
but do not become suspicious. The moment you allow suspicion
to occur, realize that ‘death’ has come.
Questioner: But suspicion arises on its own does it not?
Dadashri: Yes, but it is a tremendously dangerous
ignorance. It causes a lot of pain. When your daughter goes out
and someone tells you that she has gone to meet her boyfriend,
it will cause you to have suspicion on your daughter. How will
you feel?
Questioner: That is it, after that the restlessness continues
within.
Dadashri: Will your restlessness solve the problem on
the outside? Is it going to stop her from going out with her
boyfriend? Nothing is going to change and that suspicion will kill
you. Therefore, the moment suspicion arises, instantly remember
that Dada has said ‘no’ to it and that you are to stop it.
Nevertheless, you should take the necessary precautions.
Do others not have daughters too? And do their
daughters not go to college also? It is not like the old days when
girls were kept at home, is it? So do you not have to act
according to the current times? If other girls talk to their boy
friends, then can your daughters not do the same with their boy
friends?
It is no fun to see these parents when they become
suspicious about their daughters because they either have seen
or heard something about their daughters. When they come to
me asking for help, I tell them to get rid of their suspicions. You
are suspicious because you saw something, what if you had not
seen it? Suspicion arose only from what you saw, so why don’t