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pompous about all this?’ I understood that he got satisfaction
by being self-righteous; at least he felt at peace but when he
started to criticize others, I had to tell him, ‘Do not criticize.’
It is wrong to criticize other people’s daughters when you have
daughters of your own. People who do not have daughters of
their own would not criticize this way but the ones with
daughters criticize a lot. Being a father yourself, are you not
ashamed of criticizing in this way? If you entertain such
suspicion, where will it end?
Girls today are so naive that they think their fathers will
never read their personal diaries. They keep their personal
letters in their schoolbooks. The fathers are naïve too; they trust
their daughters. But I know everything and realize that the girl is
mature and grown up. I would advice him to get his daughter
married, what else can I say?
Beware! Parents of daughters
One of my close relatives had four daughters. He was
very aware in worldly matters. He tells me, ‘These girls are
grown up and are going to college but I cannot trust them.’ I
told him, ‘Then go to the college with them and follow them till
they come home. You can do that for one day but what will you
do the following day? Send your wife?’ He had no understanding
of where he should place his trust and where not. You simply
have to tell your daughter, ‘Dear daughter. Ours is a noble family
and well respected in the community. Please take this into
consideration as you interact with the world.’ You have to
caution her this way and then whatever happens is correct. Do
not have suspicions. How many parents will be suspicious?
Those who have worldly awareness due to excessive intellect
will keep having suspicions. The dumb ones will not.
Any suspicion that arises should be removed the moment
it arises. One becomes suspicious even when his daughter goes
out to play. Would he be happy once suspicion arises?