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Aptavani-9
The unawareness of moha (illusionary
attachment)
A person may not have suspicions towards his daughters
because he has moha (attachment due to illusion; moha or
raag) for them. One can never see a mistake or a wrongdoing
where there is illusion (moha). The whole world takes a beating
due to this moha. Every parent will say, ‘My daughters are
good girls.’ So that must mean that the current cycle is that of
Satyug (an era of virtue and morality)! Any parent you ask will
say the same thing, so this must be Satyug, don’t you think? And
then they will say, ‘Other people’s daughters are unchaste.’
They even say this.
Questioner: And nowadays if one says anything about
his daughter, he will come down on you.
Dadashri: You can never say that. He will come down
hard on you and curse you. You can never say anything to
anyone. It is good that parents have attachment (raag) towards
their children. They do not see any faults in their children
because of their attachment and yet they will see faults in other
people’s children. It is good that they do not see faults in their
daughters; it keeps them at peace for the time being, and they
will worry about other things when the time comes.
Unconstructive criticism
One man told me, ‘My daughters are very sensible and
wise.’ I told him, ‘That is very nice.’ Then he started to criticize
other girls so I told him, ‘Why are you criticizing other girls?
Other people will criticize you if you criticize them.’ He told me
there was nothing in him that warranted criticism. So I told him,
‘I will show you something, but you must remain silent.’ Then I
showed him his daughter’s books and everything in it. He was
shocked and so I told him, ‘Just keep quiet. Do not criticize
anyone. I knew all this about you and yet why did I not say a
word to you? Why do I remain quiet even when you are being