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keep a suspicious eye for one day but does it have to be
everyday? To keep a suspicious eye the next day is aashanka.
Should there not be an end to it? Whatever vision of suspicion
was employed, should it not end? All that is aashanka. Now
what is kushanka? If she is going out with a boy, the father will
have all kinds of kushanka (negative phases in suspicion) in his
mind. Now it may or may not be true. These kinds of suspicions
make human beings miserable.
In this world it is not worth harboring suspicion (shanka);
it is worth being aware (jagruti). Suspicion is taking on
unnecessary misery upon one’s self. It eats away a person on
the inside, day and night. It is necessary to be aware. What is
the point of fretting unnecessarily when it is not under your
control? Or if you have any understanding in this regard, then
stop the girls from going to college. To this statement, the father
will claim, ‘Who would marry her if she is not educated?’ He is
not happy this way and he is not happy the other way. Look
here you! Take one position and come to a closure. Alternatively,
yet another solution is to go around with the daughter day and
night! Go with her to college and sit with her in the class. If the
professor asks, ‘Why do you accompany your daughter?’ then
tell him, ‘Sir, I keep having suspicions about her and so if I stay
with her, I will no longer have suspicions.’ People will call him
a stupid fool. The daughter herself will say he is a little crazy.
Therefore, I am telling you not to be suspicious of your
daughters. There are people who are not suspicions about their
daughter. Even if they have seven daughters, there is nothing of
the sort. They are carefree.
They have other kinds of suspicions; ‘My partner is
definitely taking a few rupees home everyday from the business.’
He has this kind of suspicion, it’s because he loves money.
Suspicion for one day is called shanka (suspicion) and suspicion
that is done over and over again, is called aashanka.