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Aptavani-9
How can there be moha (attachment due to
illusion) towards such betrayal?
The toilets that we have, are they used by many or just
one person?
Questioner: Everyone uses them.
Dadashri: So a place everyone goes to is called a toilet.
A place where many people go is called a toilet. A relationship
of fidelity to one man and one woman is a conduct of virtue. Till
then a woman’s conduct is considered virtuous otherwise it is
considered a toilet. How many people use the toilet in your
home?
Questioner: Everyone.
Dadashri: It is not used by just one person is it? So
whether two people use it or everyone else does, then it is a
toilet.
People will ‘dine’ when they come across a ‘hotel’.
Hey! They may even wine and dine! So get rid of any
suspicion. With suspicion, you will lose the moksha that is in
the palm of your hands. Therefore, you have to understand just
this much that you are married and that she is your tenant! That
is all you have to keep in your mind. Then whomever she goes
out with, you should not harbor any suspicion. Your concern
is only with your needs, is it not? When you need to use the
toilet; go use it. That which cannot be refrained from visiting,
is called a toilet. That is why the Gnanis have said that the
worldly life is a betrayal.
Questioner: Why does it not appear as a betrayal?
Dadashri: Because of moha (illusionary attachment).
And there has never been anyone to tell you so either. The train
will stop only when someone waves a red flag, otherwise it will
continue and become derailed.