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‘we’ think about what is going to become of that poor man.
There is a safe side only if she is not good-looking.
A man will forget God when his wife is beautiful and a
woman too, will forget God when her husband is good looking.
That is why it is good if everything is average. Our elders used
to say, ‘Keep your farm barren and have an ugly wife.’ Why did
they say that? If your wife is beautiful, some man will have bad
intentions towards her and that is why it is better to have an ugly
wife. They were saying this from a different perspective, not
from a religious perspective. ‘We’ are telling you from the
religious perspective. You do not have to worry about anything
if your wife is ugly. If she goes out, no one will have bad
intentions towards her. Our elders were very smart, but that is
not what ‘we’ are telling you; it is quite different. If she is ugly,
then it will not bother you; you will not be tormented and
preoccupied by mistrust.
What a betrayal this is
What kind of people do you find today? Wherever they
see a ‘hotel’ (woman, sexual outlet), they will ‘dine’ (indulge in
lustful fancy or more). Suspicion is the cause of all misery. Both
men and women ‘dine’ wherever they see a ‘hotel’. A man does
not think about what his wife is doing. He thinks she is a good
woman, but he does not realize that she is cheating on him. Men
cheat on their wives and the wives cheat on their husbands.
Women however will win because men do not have as much
kapat (deceit). That is why women easily deceive men.
This worldly life was worth enjoying when there was
sincerity and morality in it. Nowadays there is tremendous
betrayal. If ‘we’ were to tell men about their wives, they would
not even go to them. ‘We’ know everything about everybody
but ‘we’ would not do anything about it. Men are not angels
either, but a woman is a factory of sheer deceit. A warehouse
of deceit is not to be found anywhere except in a woman.