Anger 21
how he feels when someone gets angry with him . How does he tolerate such behavior when it is directed towards him ? Treat others the way you would like to be treated .
If someone uses abusive language towards you and it does not bother you or depress you , it is a different matter . You should stop it altogether . One must never use abusive language . Swearing is crude behavior , unbecoming of any human being .
PRATIKRAMAN : THE REAL PATH TO LIBERATION
At one time people were taught to have compassion , practice fairness and forgiveness , but nowadays how can they have these qualities when they keep getting angry ?
I would tell these people that whenever they get angry , they should repent from within . They should know the weakness within them , which prompts their anger . They should accept their mistake and feel remorse . If they have a guru , they should seek help from him . They should make a firm resolve to never let their weakness overcome them again . They should not defend their anger and they should do pratikraman for it . They should make a note of when , where , and with whom they became angry during the day and they should do pratikraman for it .
What should one do in pratikraman ? If one ’ s anger hurts another person , he must recall the Soul within that person and ask to be forgiven . He should ask forgiveness for his actions and vow never to do it again . Aalochana is confession of your mistake . When you confess your mistakes to me , you are doing aalochana .
ASK FOR FORGIVENESS INTERNALLY
Questioner : Dada , sometimes when we do pratikraman and repent for a mistake for getting angry with someone , we feel anguish within . Yet , we do not have the courage to ask for forgiveness face to face , from the person .