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– even permanent . Ask , is this issue really worth causing irreversible harm to me – even death ?
• Remember , though it seems things will never get better , they most always do , if given time .
If you are feeling anxious , helpless , scared –
• Take a moment and breathe fully . Don ’ t breathe so deeply that you are out of breath or dizzy .
• Identify exactly what you are scared or anxious about . Then , you can begin to deal with it .
• Identify the part of the issue , event or situation that is bothering you the most , and identify one thing about it that you can control . Then control it .
• Create a plan . Identify the worst thing that might happen and plan what you will do if that indeed happens .
• If things get too much , talk to someone you can trust to help you think things through clearly .
If you are feeling lonely –
• Put yourself in safe positions where you can meet people . Volunteer with a social service agency . Take a class . Join a gym . Join a club .
• Keep busy doing constructive activities .
• Get a pet . Believe it or not , it can make you feel better and less alone .
• Recognize that there are many others out there who are as lonely as you , though it does not seem so . So you really are not alone .
If you are feeling like you might hurt yourself –
• Promise yourself that you will not act on these feelings without first talking to someone .
• Consider the fact that the impact of hurting yourself can be very long-term
If you are feeling embarrassed – Even if you did something that was noticed by many people , and you are fully humiliated .
• Hold your head up - always . Be proud of who you are , even when you are not proud of something you did … or something others think you did .
• Focus on the future . Not on what happened , but on what will you do now . While others may want to keep you focused on the past by blasting you over and over about something embarrassing that you did , you can reduce their power by continually focusing on the future .
• Remember , many , in fact most , people ( including very famous and successful people ) have done embarrassing things . Those who overcame them are those who kept their heads high and got right back up and moved forward .
If you are feeling that you are of little value or that you are a failure –
• Remember that you have value because you are you . You have as much right here on Earth as anyone else .
• Make a list of the things you have done right or done well ; even the little things . Celebrate those things .
• Select one thing good and useful ( to you or to others ) to do each week . If you can ’ t think of anything – there are human services agencies that would love to have you help them - and their work is important and valued .
If you are feeling you are being bullied –
• Tell an adult you can trust .
• Respond to the bully eye to eye and walk away , if you can . Not in fear , but as a gesture of control and strength .
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