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TEEN DEPRESSION/SUICIDE
Otting
Body Shop
“Otting’s is proud to support the fight for
an ABUSE FREE future for our youth!”
563-852-3512
306 Lincoln St. NW - Cascade, IA
2027 US Highway 34 - Red Oak, IA
“We at Hawkeye Ford Inc. are proudly
providing teens & their families with
safe reliable vehicles & keeping them
on the road to a drug free future!”
Rainbow Cafe
“We are proud to be a drug free
workplace and to support our future
leaders to remain drug free”
712-623-4003
105 W. Market St.
Red Oak, IA
Ultimate
Tanning
409 N. 3rd - Red Oak, IA
(712) 623-2042
“We at Ultimate Tanning are proud
to be a drug free workplace & proud
to support our future Leaders in their
efforts to remain drug free. We care
and we get involved!”
Kids, come find out how
tanning can help with ACNE!
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• Do not let the bully define who you
are or what your value is.
• Remember, it’s the bully’s issue, not
yours. Bullies bully because they
are struggling themselves. It may
not seem so, but bullies bully out of
weakness.
Here are some additional
questions and some answers:
3. “Should I get help?” There’s nothing
wrong with getting help. In fact, if you
are hurting or distressed and you do
get help, it really means you have the
courage, strength and conviction to do
something about it. It means that you
are determined to control your life, and
not let others do it for you. It means
that you are committed to living your
life the way that is right for you.
4. “What will people think if I get help?”
While there may, indeed, be someone
who chooses to be short-sighted enough
to give you a hard time for getting help,
think about the alternative. Would you
rather continue on as you have been,
feeling as bad as you have just because
some goof throws some garbage at
you about it? Or would you like to rid
yourself of the bad feelings you have
been experiencing?
5. I have heard some things that concern
me:
• “Maybe I feel this way because I
deserve to feel so bad.” As long as you
do your best and strive to be better,
you do not deserve to feel bad. Even if
you make a mistake, it doesn’t mean
you don’t deserve a second chance.
• “If I have these kinds of problems,
then I can’t work or be successful.”
Having these kinds of problems in no
way determines your abilities and
potential.
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• “Having these kinds of problems
means I am stupid and weak.” These
kinds of issues, in no way, mean you
are not smart or that you are weak.
There are thousands of very bright and
very strong people who are dealing
with these very same emotional
issues.
• “There is no recovering from these
kinds of problems.” This is simply
not true. The key is how bound and
determined you are to work through
your issues constructively and not
cave into the pressure or tendency to
give up or react in destructive ways.
• “Someone mentioned I might need
therapy. No Way! Therapy is a waste
of time and I am not crazy.“ Therapy
is simply two people communicating
in such a way as to explore the deeper
feelings of a person. Then, processing
those feelings, and then exploring
solutions and ways to change one’s life
for the better. It can be very effective
and it does not mean you’re crazy..
• “If I tell someone about how I am
feeling, I will have to be put in the
hospital or be on medications for the
rest of my life?” Hospitalization is
only a possibility if you either want it,
or you are at risk of hurting yourself
or someone else. Medications may
be of help to you and you should
not automatically refuse to consider
them. Sometimes meds are used
just for a short time. But even if it is
recommended that you use them longterm, it is no different than people
who take meds for heart problems or
diabetes.
Whatever you’re feeling, there is hope, and
a brighter day ahead. And you can make it
happen.