If you do these things, you will have more fun in life and it will have an immensely positive impact on how you see the things around you and, more importantly, how other people see you.
Be HAPPY for Him
Can you be happy for him?
Can you honestly say to yourself right now that you are happy if he is happy and that you won’ t hold it against him if he never again wants to see you or he starts dating someone else?
Not a lot of women can, but it’ s an important part of the healing process and one of the most profoundly effective ways to find your own happiness.
In the late 19th century a philosopher and psychologist names William James said“ If you want a quality, act as if you already have it.”
This came to be known as the“ As If Principle” and has been studied at length by scientists throughout the last century. In his recent book The As If Principle: The Radically New Approach to Changing Your Life Richard Wiseman collects these studies and stories and shows how the body has an impeccable ability to preset your emotions.
The idea is simple.
If you act“ as if” you feel a certain way, you will begin to feel that way. It’ s not a magic tonic and it won’ t immediately wash away the hurt of a broken heart, but it does have a profound effect if used in the right instances and, more importantly, if you apply the basic principles to other aspects of your life.
One of the simplest exercises( and I guarantee this works) is to smile.
The human mind is hardwired to respond to a smile. It’ s just that, 99 % of the time, a smile is subconscious. You smile because something amuses or entertains you. But we can hack that system a bit and, by smiling, even when we don’ t feel happy, elicit a positive response from the mind.
The next time you are feeling particularly blue, stand in front of a mirror and practice smiling for 5 minutes.
Pull the muscles at the edges of your mouth up towards your ears slowly and hold it for 20 seconds then release. Do this 5-10 times until 5 minutes have passed.
Now, how do you feel?
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