THE SUBTLE ART OF GIVING Mell Balment
THE SUBTLE ART OF GIVING Mell Balment
“ You really must give , in order to receive ”. “ You need to pay it forward ”.
Statements like these are constantly bandied around , but how do you give , without undervaluing your self-worth or giving too much of yourself away ? The Relationship Wing-Girl , Mell Balment of QT Consulting provides us with some insights into how you can respark harmony and positive flow into your relationship and business .
A re you constantly being asked for free services or ‘ mates ’ rates ? Perhaps your relationship is a lop-sided one of constant giving ? The seven natural laws explain the phenomena of how the universe operates – whether you believe in them or not .
You can ( perhaps unbelievably ) combine the first five of these , into your next act of kindness .
THE SEVEN NATURAL LAWS 1 ) Cause and Effect – every action has an impact 2 ) Gender and Gestation – what is sown , will grow 3 ) Rhythm – life ebbs and flows , flexibility is required 4 ) Polarity – the balance of opposites 5 ) Attraction ( or vibration )– energy attract similar energy 6 ) Relativity – comparisons are required to have perspective 7 ) Perpetual Energy – nothing dies , only transmuting into new forms
First up , you need to understand the difference between doing and giving .
DOING VERSUS GIVING The act of doing anything is with a purpose of achievement . Giving on the other hand is a free gesture ; a voluntary action , with no need for any outcome . If you are a constant doer or your ‘ giving ’ is draining you , you could have a subtle subconscious resistance within you . An inward hope that you will receive something in return . Rather than trusting in the three universal laws of rhythm , cause and effect and attraction , you may be chasing a sense of accomplishment or in the hope of being appreciated for your act .
Furthermore , you can ’ t give what you don ’ t have . If you want to give you ’ re your time or anything physical , you must believe that there is enough left behind , or that it can be replaced in a harmonious fashion .
If you aren ’ t aware of your unintentional drivers , that ‘ thing ’, you gave away , will be tied to you energetically and distract or hold you back until it has been replenished to a manner that you feel comfortable with .
You should note that the act of giving cannot be complete without the opposite energy of receiving . giving .
TAKING VERSUS RECEIVING Taking is generally ‘ to receive ’ or ‘ have possession of ’. We oftentimes have an attachment to a specific outcome , also known as having an agenda .
On the opposite of the spectrum receiving is to be presented with or ‘ be given something ’. It requires you to open up to trust the givers intentions and believe you are worth of it ’ s gifting to you . Be warned , those who consistently ‘ take ’ without genuine gratitude will find the flow of abundance harder to grasp .
“ To really understand giving you must also learn the art of receiving .”
30 Women ’ s Network Magazine