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LIFE STYLE Think about this, if someone forms an opinion about you or you are criticized for your actions, will that make a difference to you unless you take it into your head? Let’s get reasonable and admit it that we get affected and sometimes so badly that it hampers our peace of mind and is psycologically disturbing to an extent that we fear to hear a negative comment about ourselves. 70 This fear and habit of taking everything too personally is solely the reason for our disrupted peace and never- ending disappointments. It could be not getting a response to a message to someone telling you that you have a bad sense of humor. Do you think it is fair to take everything to heart and forget who you are? No! If you are affected today because someone said something to you or if your peace is always targeted when you hear bad about yourself, you should follow these tips and learn how to stop letting people bother you with their words or actions No 1 - Discern That You Are Not A Remote Control WWW.WISHESH.NET | JANUARY 2020 Can you predict or control what you are going to feel the next day? No, right? When you cannot do it for yourself, is it in your control to stop a person from feeling or saying what they want to? Every individual is different. Good and bad is there in all of us. You will find sensible people to the most evil- minded. We are in a world and it is quite obvious that you cannot escape how people think about you. Take Away It would make sense to feel bad if you were an automatic remote control. You could keep a check on what people say and think. In reality, you are not and when the control is not yours the best you can do is to let it go. No 2 - Time To Make A Few Choices If a friend of yours comes up with her opinion that is not in your favor. It can be disappointing, but, the choice is for you to make of ignoring it or taking it seriously. A situation will arise anytime, the tackling part is based on the choices you make. Take Away You either talk for yourself or don’t let it affect you. If you think it is worth molding and bringing up a few changes in yourself, then go for it. If you think cutting off with the person gives you peace, just go for it and if you want to be the mature one and ignore it, you can do it with all pleasure. No 3 - Look Into Yourself Is it always the opposite person who is at a fault? Isn’t it possible that even you are going wrong at somewhere? May be or maybe not. So, when you are upset with another person you need to look into yourself and see if you provoked or were a part of the upsetting situation or not. Take Away If you are upset that your friend is talking behind your