Winter Garden Magazine February 2016 - Daniel & Mindy Hungerford | страница 42

when the charge was particularly big —
I come to my senses once again and
things are back in perspective. After this,
I am again able to see my partner for
who he really is: a good man, who occasionally runs late but really has the best
of intentions with me.
After this kind of release, during which
I will often say all sorts of things I don’t
really mean, I am able to see my own
needs clearly and can communicate
clearly and calmly to my partner. I have
discharged
consciously.
My
girlfriend knows, that I didn’t really
mean everything I said, but just had
to get it out of my system. Maybe my
partner would have also known, yet for
him it would be much harder to not take
it personally if I say things, that are really
not fair.

Beware of Toxic Waste 
A lack of awareness in how we
deal with emotional charges can be
extremely
dangerous
for
our
relationships and many couples i
nadvertently
jeopardize
their
relationship by failing to distinguish
feelings and emotions. It is natural for
those closest to us to trigger our biggest emotional charges. That’s why it’s

important to deal with them consciously.
A failure to do so most likely results in
mutual emotional activations. Sooner or  later, the whole field of our
relationship is poisoned or mined
even, turning even the most seemingly
harmless conversations into veritable
minefields. Left unchecked, the final stop
in this journey is a painful breakup, often
leaving both partners bewildered as to
what really happened.
In many cases, people still notice it
years later when they happen to come
in contact with an ex where emotional charges played an unhealthy role.
Even the smallest contact can trigger
strong emotional waves, demanding an
opportunity to discharge.
To each his own. Regardless of
whether it is an e ^H