Winter Garden Magazine April 2015 | Page 24

SAFETY ON THE ROADS: ALL ABOUT SHARING THE GESTURE BY BARRY ALTLAND N early every driver has experienced it. At first, it appears as a phantom shadow in the rear-view mirror. Then suddenly, the shadow transforms into a blur of shiny, painted metal flying past at breakneck speed. The heartbeat quickens. The throat gets dry. The speeder’s appearance is startling. The hands tremble and palms sweat as they work so hard to maintain a grip on the steering wheel. Face it. Some drivers are just wired that way. Driving on the roads is a competition to them. Allowing a car to pass them is a sign of weakness. How can they possibly lose this race today? Other drivers are in a genuine hurry. Life’s responsibilities mounted in the process of getting out the door, landing the driver a few minutes behind schedule. If their calculations are correct, they can make up the lost time by speeding past other cars on the road. Those other drivers will understand. They have been there, too. Our hard-wired personalities. Time pressures. The circumstances of the day. All are contributors to behaviors on the roads that make it a treacherous place. In the comfort of our own driver’s seat, we rarely ponder that our lives could dramatically change in 24  |  WINTER GARDEN MAGAZINE  |  APRIL 2015 an instant. Life’s situations can quickly turn kind, mild-mannered people into crazy-eyed loons when behind the wheel. The media has tagged the phenomenon road rage. Rage on the road. What to do? The first thing a driver must accept is that they are not going to be able to change their fellow drivers. There is no joystick that controls the choices of others on the road. They are going to be who they are and do what they are going to do. Step one is embracing that truth. So, if we forfeit the governance of the other vehicles, what is in our control? As a driver, what we choose to do is where our focus needs to be. Look within. Examine the choices made in our driver’s seat, and the potential impact our own decisions have on our fellow drivers. One common scenario comes to mind . . . when traffic merges into fewer lanes. Most cars dutifully follow the protocol of dropping in behind other vehicles to form a cohesive line that continues to creep forward. Suddenly, the opportunistic driver who used the berm to pass a number of slower-moving cars rolls up next to the obedient cadence of vehicles.