social intelligence: tips on how to build your interpersonal reations
Free yourself from negative people who are ever rigid to new ideas, discouraging you in every bit that you try to make out, always pulling you back from trying new things that maybe healthful, those people are there to kill your growth and development both mentally and psychologically, find out people who are positive always encouraging you
Let go of those who are already gone never worry too much on them because if they were really meant to stay they could have. No matter what the situation that made them go could have been, if they were really good people for you they could have stuck in you and with you forever but if they decided to go, bother yourself less and let it flip through your fingers, concentrate on those whom you have.
Give people you don’t know a fair chance not just assuming them and terming them as strangers, we were all born strangers into this world, meeting new people is a recommendable thing because they can influence us positively or negatively but the rather is considered and in case they are less positive or developmental withdraw the fair chances you gave them. Mostly new people got new ideas that can help you in one way or the other.
Show everyone kindness and respect despite their age, tribe, gender, body size, social status in the society among other things. The way you respect people is the way they will respect you back and this cultivates good relation with those you meet and engage with. Though not necessarily does it mean that when you show respect and kindness to people they will show it back, others will not but will do the opposite so don’t let discourage you.
Accept people just the way they are if you can’t change them. Don’t kill yourself trying to change them if in reality they won’t, adopt to what they are and try to do things in line with them, if they are people who really means the world to you, but if their character is not well to be with then never get yourself hanged on the cross that will hurt you in your whole life, leave them the way they are and find out someone who is what you want, it’s better that way.
Encourage others and cheer them up when they are down hearted, when they have been hurt, when a lot is not working out for them or in other side no matter the little they achieved while they were trying to. Always give them hope and act as a catalyst to the good achievements and sacrifices they have put into use to make a difference of today from tomorrow which is always perfect from trying out new things which makes us achieve lot of things, this will make them always rely for you for comfort and encouragement when things aren’t working out for them or when they are low for that case you will be a solution to some of their problems which will cultivate very good relationships.
Be your imperfectly perfect self by gaining self-confidence, self-sustainability, self-control, self-determination to improve the self you are, this helps you associate positively by showing a distinct recognition of person perfection and development in that manner give hope and some future confidence in your relationship with others in the care that you become a reliable person whom someone can wish to perfect from, this brings out the real you from inside
Forgive people and move forward because holding on into grudges is like taking rat poison and expecting the other person to die, it will eat you from inside, kill your esteem by thinking too much about those who wronged you. It also affects your present relationship and even the future ones a s you will always be thinking of the wrong that the other people can do to you, never expecting the positivity of doing you good, only keep the good things done to you by others but if wronged just forgive and move on